Accelerated OCD Treatment for Military Wives
1:1 virtual ERP-based treatment for intrusive thoughts, mental rituals, and compulsive vigilance
If this feels familiar, you’re not alone
You’ve handled deployments, relocations, and years of putting others first.
From the outside, you’re steady and capable.
Inside, your mind feels like it never turns off.
You may find yourself:
Having intrusive thoughts about harming loved ones, despite knowing you would never act on them
Mentally checking, praying, or repeating phrases to “undo” thoughts or prevent something bad from happening
Avoiding family moments — children, hugs, shared meals — because the anxiety feels overwhelming
Constantly scanning for danger, even during what should be peaceful or joyful time
Feeling ashamed, confused, or afraid to say out loud what your thoughts are doing to you
Many women assume this is “just anxiety,” stress, or overthinking.
But when fear, doubt, and mental rituals begin controlling your behavior and stealing your peace, OCD may be involved — even if you’ve never been told that before.
it’s beyond you.
What is Exposure and Response Prevention (ERP)?
Exposure and Response Prevention (ERP) is the most researched and widely supported treatment for OCD. It works differently than traditional talk therapy. Instead of analyzing why you have the thoughts, ERP focuses on changing how you respond to them.
In simple terms:
Exposure = Gradually and intentionally facing the thoughts or situations that trigger anxiety.
Response Prevention = Choosing not to perform the ritual or compulsion that usually follows.
If you’re exhausted from fighting your own mind, and ready for treatment that addresses the actual mechanism of OCD, not just surface anxiety, an intensive approach like this may be appropriate for you.
Military Life Intensifies OCD
Military culture values preparedness, vigilance, and responsibility, qualities that serve families well in real-world uncertainty.
OCD can hijack those same strengths, turning them inward.
During deployments, transitions, or retirement, your brain may start insisting:
“If I don’t stay alert, something bad will happen.”
“If I miss a detail, I’ll never forgive myself.”
“If I don’t do this exactly right, I’m putting my family at risk.”
Over time, these thoughts don’t fade — they multiply.
And the strategies that once helped you cope begin feeding the cycle instead.
This isn’t a failure of strength.
It’s how OCD works.
Why Traditional Therapy or Medication May Not Have Worked
Many of the women I work with are thoughtful, intelligent, and highly motivated. They’ve tried to fix this.
They’ve:
Talked through childhood history
Practiced breathing exercises
Tried to “think more positively”
Taken medication that reduced anxiety but didn’t stop the compulsions
Here’s the key difference:
OCD does not respond to reassurance, logic, or analysis.
It responds to behavioral retraining.
When therapy focuses only on stress, past experiences, or general anxiety coping skills, the compulsive cycle remains intact. The brain never learns that the feared outcome doesn’t require action. Medication can reduce the intensity of anxiety, and for some people, that is helpful. But medication alone does not teach your brain how to respond differently when OCD demands a ritual.
If you’ve ever thought:
“I should be able to handle this.”
“Why can’t I just stop?”
“Maybe I’m the one person who can’t be helped.”
You likely just haven’t had the right OCD-specific treatment.
About Erin Davis, LCMHC
I’m Erin Davis, a Licensed Clinical Mental Health Counselor specializing in OCD and intrusive thoughts.
My work focuses specifically on:
Harm OCD
Religious OCD (scrupulosity)
Responsibility and magical thinking
Relationship OCD
Compulsive checking and reassurance seeking
I have specialized training in Exposure and Response Prevention (ERP) and have worked with military wives navigating both OCD and the unique pressures of military life.
Military culture often rewards vigilance, responsibility, and mental toughness. Those qualities are strengths, until OCD redirects them inward. My role is not to judge your thoughts. It’s to help you retrain your response to them. Treatment is conducted securely via telehealth and is available to residents of North Carolina and Virginia.
What to Expect from this Program
Individual, 1-on-1 sessions
Your deepest fears and rituals are handled with complete privacy and understanding
You don't have to explain your rituals to a group of strangers. You don't have to worry about being judged or misunderstood. It's just you and me, in a private virtual session, talking about exactly what OCD is demanding and how to resist it.
You can tell me about the specific cleaning rules, the exact pattern you have to follow, the elaborate monitoring of your husband's social media. You can share the rituals that feel too strange or shameful to say out loud to anyone else. And I'll understand, because I specialize in exactly this type of OCD.
You can say, "I know this sounds crazy, but I have to vacuum in horizontal strokes or I feel like something bad will happen to my marriage." And I won't look at you like you're crazy. I'll say, "That's OCD. Let's work on breaking that rule."
OCD-Specific Expertise
Every technique designed specifically for obsessive-compulsive patterns and magical thinking
We're not doing generic anxiety coping skills. We're doing Exposure Response Prevention (ERP) - the gold standard treatment for OCD. We're breaking the specific rules OCD created for you. We're resisting the specific rituals that are consuming your life.
When OCD says "Pray in this exact pattern," we practice praying normally and sitting with the anxiety. When OCD says "Clean the house in this exact order," we practice breaking that order and tolerating the discomfort. When OCD says "Check his location or you'll miss the signs," we practice not checking and handling the uncertainty.
Every exposure is tailored to your specific rituals. Every session builds on the last. Every homework assignment is designed around your actual life and your actual OCD. We're not talking about your childhood or analyzing why you have these thoughts. We're actively breaking the rules and teaching your brain that disaster doesn't follow.
Virtual Delivery
Works around deployments, training, and military schedules
No driving across town three times a week. No arranging childcare for in-person appointments. No worrying about what happens if you get PCS orders in the middle of treatment.
We meet virtually, from your home, at times that work for your schedule. If your husband is deployed and you're managing everything solo, we work around that. If you have young kids, we schedule during nap time or after bedtime. If you're dealing with a move, we can continue sessions from your new location.
The intensive format means we get through all nine sessions in 2-3 weeks, so even if military life is chaotic, we can find a window that works. You don't need three months of availability - you need 2-3 weeks where we can meet three times a week. Much more doable for military families.
Military-wife specific — I understand both OCD and military life pressures
I know what it's like to manage a household during deployment. I understand the pressure to be the "strong military wife." I get how the constant uncertainty of military life feeds OCD's demands for control through rituals.
When you tell me your rituals get worse during deployments, I understand why. When you explain the shame of not being "strong enough" to just stop, I get it. When you describe how last-minute orders or extended deployments trigger more rituals, I know exactly what you mean.
The exposures we design together take military life into account. We practice resisting rituals during the times they're hardest - when you're alone during deployment, when you're stressed about a move, when you're managing everything solo. We don't just practice in ideal conditions - we practice in the messy reality of military life.
Sarah told me: "In the corporate IOP, I felt like a freak for having religious rituals I couldn't explain. Here, you understood exactly what I was going through and had specific tools that actually worked. For the first time, someone got it. And more importantly, someone knew how to help me stop. I'm not 'cured' - I still have the thoughts sometimes. But I don't have to follow the rules anymore. I can just... pray. Like a normal person. It's amazing."
Who this is (and is Not) a Good Fit For
This Intensive May Not Be The Right Fit If:
You are seeking traditional talk therapy focused primarily on past experiences
You are looking for a quick fix without behavioral work
You are unable to commit to the structured schedule
You reside outside North Carolina or Virginia
If this intensive is not appropriate, individual weekly therapy may still be an option.
This Intensive May Be a Good Fit If:
You’re a military wife or veteran spouse
You experience intrusive thoughts about harming loved ones, religious fears, relationship doubts, or compulsive checking
You recognize that reassurance and logic have not resolved the cycle
You are willing to actively participate in exposure exercises
You can commit to the 3-week schedule
You do not need to be “severe enough.”
You simply need to be ready to approach OCD directly.
This Program Vs. Traditional Intensive Outpatient Programs
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You're sharing your deepest fears and rituals with strangers who don't understand OCD, let alone magical thinking and superstitious behaviors.
Imagine trying to explain to a group of strangers that you have to vacuum in a specific direction or something bad will happen to your marriage. That you check your husband's location multiple times a day because OCD says that's how you prevent cheating. That you can't let anyone else clean your house because they won't do it "right" and breaking the pattern feels like inviting catastrophe.
The looks you'd get. The confusion. The well-meaning but completely unhelpful suggestions: "Just let your husband help with cleaning." "Maybe you're being a little controlling." "Have you tried just trusting him?"
They don't understand that you KNOW it doesn't make logical sense. You KNOW you're being "controlling" or "paranoid" or "obsessive." But knowing that doesn't stop the rituals because OCD doesn't respond to logic. You can't just decide to stop any more than you can decide to stop feeling anxious.
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The same treatment protocols used for depression, addiction, and other conditions. No OCD-specific expertise, no understanding of responsibility OCD or magical thinking.
The therapist teaches everyone the same skills: "When you feel anxious, try this breathing exercise." "Challenge your negative thoughts by asking, 'Is this thought realistic?'" "Practice self-care and set boundaries."
But OCD doesn't work like other conditions. Challenging the thought "Something bad will happen if I don't clean the house correctly" with "Is that realistic?" just makes you analyze it more. "Well, bad things CAN happen in marriages. And I AM responsible for taking care of our home. So maybe I SHOULD do it the right way just to be sure."
The breathing exercises might calm you down temporarily, but they don't stop the urge to follow OCD's rules. You can breathe deeply all you want, but when OCD says "Vacuum the couch in horizontal strokes or your marriage will suffer," the breathing doesn't make that urge go away.
Self-care and boundaries? Sure, those are nice. But they don't teach you how to change your relationship with your thoughts when OCD demands you follow its rules. They don't address the core problem: the rituals that are consuming your life and making you feel crazy.
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Most corporate IOPs cost $10,000+ and insurance rarely covers the full amount. You're paying premium prices for generic care.
Sarah paid over $4,000 out of pocket after insurance. Three months of group therapy, three times a week, two hours per session. Eighteen sessions total. And at the end of it, she was still doing all the same rituals. Still praying in specific patterns. Still avoiding certain words. Still mentally reviewing every spiritual thought.
She'd invested time, money, and emotional energy into treatment that wasn't designed for her specific problem. She'd rearranged her schedule, found childcare, driven across town three times a week. And she was no better than when she started - actually worse, because now she felt like she'd "failed" at treatment and maybe she really was just crazy.
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Corporate programs run on their schedule, not yours. No accommodation for military life, deployments, or PCS moves.
The IOP met Monday, Wednesday, Friday from 10 AM to 12 PM. Non-negotiable. If you couldn't make those times, you couldn't participate. If your husband's leave got moved and you needed to adjust your schedule, too bad. If you had a last-minute PCS move, you'd have to start over at a new program in your new location - if one even existed there.
Sarah had to arrange childcare three mornings a week. She had to explain to her kids why mommy was going to "appointments" so often. She had to coordinate with her husband's schedule when he was home. And all of that logistical stress was for treatment that wasn't even helping.
One week, her husband came home on unexpected leave. She wanted to spend that time with him, but she had to go to group three times that week or she'd be "non-compliant" with treatment. So she went, sat in the circle, learned coping skills that didn't work for OCD, and missed precious time with her husband.
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Therapists who don't understand the unique pressures of military life or how they amplify OCD symptoms.
When Sarah tried to explain how her rituals got worse during deployments, the therapist said, "Separation anxiety is common. Let's work on staying connected with your spouse." But it wasn't separation anxiety - it was OCD using the deployment as fuel for more rituals.
When she mentioned the pressure to be the "strong military wife," the therapist said, "It sounds like you're putting a lot of pressure on yourself. Let's work on self-compassion." But the pressure wasn't just internal - it was the culture of military life, the expectations of the community, the reality of needing to hold everything together while your spouse is deployed.
The therapist had never lived military life. She didn't understand the constant uncertainty, the last-minute changes, the isolation during deployments, the pressure to appear strong and capable. She couldn't understand how all of that fed into OCD and made the rituals feel even more necessary.
When Sarah tried to explain that she couldn't just "set boundaries" or "practice self-care" when she was managing everything alone during a deployment, the therapist looked at her blankly. "Well, you need to make time for yourself." Easy to say when you're not solo parenting through a nine-month deployment while following elaborate OCD rules that consume hours of your day.
Sarah's Transformation: From Religious Rituals to Authentic Faith
Sarah, a military wife in her 50s, came to me because OCD had stolen her spiritual life. She valued her relationship with God deeply - it was the foundation of everything. But OCD had hijacked her faith and turned it into exhausting rituals that left her feeling further from God than ever.
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Sarah, a military wife in her 50s, came to me because OCD had stolen her spiritual life. She valued her relationship with God deeply - it was the foundation of everything. But OCD had hijacked her faith and turned it into exhausting rituals that left her feeling further from God than ever.
Her Daily Struggle:
Sunday mornings used to be her favorite time of the week - a chance to worship, to feel connected to her faith community, to experience peace. But OCD had turned church into a minefield.
She'd sit in the pew, trying to focus on the sermon, but OCD would interrupt every few minutes: "You just thought a bad word. That's disrespectful to God. You need to pray and ask for forgiveness." So she'd pray silently, trying to get the words exactly right. "No, that wasn't sincere enough. Say it again." She'd pray again. "You were distracted. God knows you weren't fully focused. Start over."
By the time the service ended, she'd spent the entire hour doing mental prayer rituals instead of actually worshiping. She'd leave church feeling more anxious and spiritually empty than when she arrived. "What's wrong with me? Why can't I just have a normal relationship with God?"
At home, prayer had become torture. What used to take five minutes now took 30, sometimes 45 minutes. She'd start to pray, and OCD would demand she start over for the smallest "mistake" - a stray thought, a moment of distraction, saying a word "wrong." She'd pray the same prayer ten, fifteen times, trying to get it perfect, feeling more and more disconnected from God with each repetition.
At home, prayer had become torture. What used to take five minutes now took 30, sometimes 45 minutes. She'd start to pray, and OCD would demand she start over for the smallest "mistake" - a stray thought, a moment of distraction, saying a word "wrong." She'd pray the same prayer ten, fifteen times, trying to get it perfect, feeling more and more disconnected from God with each repetition.
Her family noticed. Her husband would find her in the bedroom, eyes red from crying, exhausted from another round of prayer rituals. "Honey, what's going on?" But she couldn't explain. How do you tell someone that you can't pray like a normal person? That your faith - the thing that's supposed to bring peace - has become a source of constant anxiety?
She'd stopped reading her Bible because certain passages triggered intrusive thoughts that OCD labeled as "sinful." She'd avoid entire books, skip certain verses, live in constant fear that she'd accidentally think something that would anger God. Her spiritual life, which she valued above almost everything, had become a prison.
The anxiety was destroying her health too. She'd lost 15 pounds because the constant stress killed her appetite. She'd lie awake at night, mentally reviewing her prayers from that day, trying to remember if she'd done them "correctly." She'd cry over small things - a dish breaking, a phone call from a friend - because she had no emotional reserves left.
Her Biggest Fear About Treatment:
"What if I stop following these rules and God actually does punish my family? What if these rituals are the only thing keeping us spiritually safe? I can't risk my family's souls."
She'd been following OCD's rules for so long that she couldn't tell the difference between genuine faith and OCD anymore. The rituals felt necessary, urgent, like the only thing standing between her family and divine punishment.
How We Started:
Session 1: I explained that we'd be breaking OCD's rules intentionally - writing "forbidden" words, praying "imperfectly," not starting over when OCD demanded it. Sarah looked terrified. "But what if God gets angry?"
I asked her: "Before OCD took over, did you believe God was loving or punishing?" She paused. "Loving. Gracious. Forgiving." "And do you think God wants you to spend 45 minutes on a prayer that should take 5 minutes, feeling anxious and disconnected the whole time?" She started crying. "No. That doesn't sound like the God I believe in."
We started with the smallest possible exposure - writing just the letter "D" on a piece of paper (part of a word OCD had labeled as "forbidden" and "disrespectful to God"). Her anxiety spiked to a 10 out of 10. Her hands shook. Her heart raced. OCD screamed that she was inviting divine punishment, that something terrible would happen to her family.
But nothing happened. We sat with the discomfort - 60 seconds, then 90 seconds, then two minutes. The anxiety started to come down to a 7, then a 5. We did it again. And again. Each time, her brain learned a little more: breaking this rule doesn't lead to punishment.
Her Progress:
Session 3: Sarah could write the full "forbidden" word without starting over or doing mental rituals to "undo" it. She could pray a simple prayer without repeating it when OCD said it wasn't "perfect." She cried during this session - not from anxiety, but from relief. "I just prayed like a normal person. I can't remember the last time I did that."
Session 6: She could attend church and actually listen to the sermon instead of doing mental prayer rituals the entire time. She could read Bible passages that used to trigger intrusive thoughts without avoiding them or mentally reviewing to make sure she hadn't "sinned." She told me, "I'm starting to feel connected to God again. Not through rituals, but through actual relationship."
Session 9: Sarah could pray spontaneously throughout the day - quick prayers of gratitude, prayers for her family, prayers for guidance - without any of OCD's rules. She could make "mistakes" in prayer without starting over. She could have spiritual conversations without mentally reviewing every word. Most importantly, she felt peace during prayer for the first time in years.
Her Transformation:
Sarah's OCD score dropped from severe to mild. But the numbers don't capture what really changed.
She told me: "I got my life back. I know the difference between God's voice and OCD's voice.” Sarah can recognize that God's voice brings peace, even when it's challenging. The OCD's voice brings anxiety and demands perfection. She chose to follow God, not fear.
"My family got their wife and mom back too. I'm not locked in the bedroom for 45 minutes doing prayer rituals anymore.” She found herself cooking again and being present at dinner. She was able to laugh again and could enjoy church with her family instead of being trapped in her own head the whole time.
Her restful sleep and healthy eating returned. With that, she found that she had the energy to do things she loved like taking her dog for a walk. She didn't realize how much the OCD was destroying her body until she stopped listening to it.
Megan's Recovery: From Relationship Rituals to
Genuine Connection
Megan, a military wife in her late 20s, came to me because OCD was destroying her engagement. She valued her relationship above almost everything - her fiancé was her best friend, her partner, her future. But OCD had convinced her that constant monitoring was the only way to keep that relationship safe.
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Her Daily Torture:
She'd wake up at 6 AM, and before she even got out of bed, she'd check his location on her phone. Still at the base. Good. But the relief lasted maybe five minutes before OCD whispered: "Check again. What if something changed? What if you're missing something?"
By 9 AM, she'd checked his location three times, scrolled through his social media twice, and mentally reviewed their phone conversation from the night before looking for signs of problems. "Did he sound distant? Was he short with me? What did he mean when he said he was 'tired'? Is he pulling away?"
Her fiancé was deployed, and instead of using their limited phone time to actually connect, she'd spend the entire conversation analyzing his tone, his word choices, looking for evidence that something was wrong. After they hung up, she'd spend the next two hours replaying the conversation in her mind, dissecting every sentence.
"He said he had a long day. Does that mean he's stressed? Or is he avoiding talking to me? He didn't ask about my day until I brought it up - does that mean he's losing interest?" Round and round, until she'd convinced herself there was a problem that needed to be addressed.
She'd text him: "Hey, is everything okay with us?" He'd respond: "Yeah, of course. Why?" And she'd feel relief for maybe an hour before OCD started the cycle again. "But what if he's just saying that? What if he doesn't want to tell you the truth? Better check his social media again."
But it wasn't just the monitoring. OCD had created elaborate rules about how she had to maintain the house while he was deployed. The cleaning had to be done in a specific order - vacuum the dog hair off the couch in horizontal strokes before touching the kitchen, wipe the counters in clockwise circles, arrange the throw pillows in exact order.
Her fiancé had helped with cleaning before he deployed, but he never did it "right." He'd vacuum in vertical strokes, wipe the counters randomly, put the pillows back crooked. And every time, Megan's chest would tighten with anxiety. "It's not right. Something bad will happen if it's not done correctly."
She couldn't explain it to him. How do you tell someone that the way they vacuum affects your relationship? That breaking the cleaning pattern feels like inviting disaster? So she'd just take over, do it the "right" way, and feel the anxiety ease. But she also felt guilty - he was trying to help, and she couldn't let him because of these rules she couldn't explain.
Now that he was deployed, she followed the cleaning rules religiously. It took twice as long as it should because every step had to be perfect. And if she made a mistake - if she vacuumed in the wrong direction or put a pillow back crooked - she'd have to start over. Because OCD said doing it wrong would cause something terrible to happen to their relationship.
She'd tried to explain this to her friends. "I just... I have to clean a certain way." They'd look at her like she was being picky or controlling. They didn't understand that it wasn't about wanting things clean - it was about the overwhelming anxiety that her relationship would fall apart if she didn't follow the rules exactly.
The constant monitoring and rule-following was destroying her health. She couldn't eat - her stomach was in knots from anxiety. She'd lost 12 pounds in two months. Her friends noticed. "Girl, you need to eat something." But food just didn't appeal anymore. The anxiety sat in her stomach like a rock.
She couldn't sleep. She'd lie awake at 2 AM, checking his location, scrolling through his Facebook, mentally reviewing their last conversation, replaying the day's cleaning to make sure she'd done it correctly. Her mind wouldn't stop spinning. "Did I vacuum correctly? Did I miss anything in our conversation? Is he okay? Are we okay?"
She'd cry at the drop of a hat. A friend would mention her own happy relationship, and Megan would burst into tears, convinced her relationship was failing in comparison. A love song on the radio would trigger a spiral of "what if we're not actually compatible?" She was emotionally exhausted, barely holding it together.
And the worst part? She knew it was pushing him away. He'd say, "Babe, you need to trust me. I'm not cheating. I love you." But OCD was louder than his reassurance. "But what if this time is different? What if you're not staying on top of it enough?"
Her family noticed too. Her mom would call and ask how the engagement was going, and Megan would break down crying. "I don't know, Mom. I just... I don't know if we're okay." Her mom would be confused - "But he just sent you flowers last week? He calls you every day? He's planning the wedding with you?" But Megan couldn't explain that OCD had convinced her that monitoring was love, that following the cleaning rules was how you kept a relationship safe.
She valued her relationship so deeply - it was the foundation of her future, her family, everything she wanted. But OCD had hijacked that value and turned it into exhausting rituals that were actually destroying the connection she was trying to protect.
Her Fear About Treatment:
"What if I stop checking and he actually does cheat? What if I stop following the cleaning rules and our relationship falls apart? What if my vigilance is the only thing keeping us together? I can't risk losing him."
She'd been checking his location and following the cleaning rules for so long that she couldn't imagine not doing it. It felt like the only way to stay connected, to stay on top of potential problems, to protect her relationship. The idea of NOT checking felt like being irresponsible, like giving up on her relationship.
Our Approach:
Session 1: I explained that we'd be practicing NOT checking - not his location, not his social media, not replaying conversations looking for problems. And we'd be breaking the cleaning rules - vacuuming in different directions, cleaning in a different order, letting things be "imperfect."
Megan looked panicked. "But what if something happens and I miss it? What if breaking the cleaning rules causes problems?"
I asked her: "Has all this checking actually prevented any problems? Has following the cleaning rules made your relationship stronger? Or has it just consumed your time and created more anxiety?" She paused. "I... I guess it hasn't prevented anything. But what if the one time I don't check is when something happens?"
We talked about what she valued most: a genuine, connected relationship with her fiancé. I asked: "When you're spending two hours analyzing a five-minute phone call, are you experiencing connection? Or are you experiencing anxiety?" She started crying. "Anxiety. I'm not even enjoying our relationship anymore. I'm just constantly afraid of losing it."
"And when you're spending an hour cleaning the house in a specific pattern, are you taking care of your home? Or are you following OCD's rules?" She cried harder. "Following rules. Rules that don't even make sense. I know vacuuming direction doesn't affect my relationship. But I can't stop doing it."
Her Breakthrough Moment:
Session 5: Megan went a full weekend without checking his location or social media. She had a phone call with him on Saturday, and instead of analyzing it afterward, she just... enjoyed it. They laughed. They talked about their wedding plans. They said "I love you" and hung up.
And she didn't replay it. She didn't look for problems. She just felt happy.
She also cleaned her house that weekend - but not in OCD's pattern. She vacuumed however felt natural. She wiped the counters in random directions. She put the pillows back without arranging them perfectly. And her anxiety was high at first, but nothing bad happened. Her fiancé called that night, completely normal, completely loving. The cleaning pattern had never affected their relationship at all.
She told me in our next session: "I've been so busy trying to protect our relationship that I wasn't actually present for it. I was missing the actual love while performing rituals that were supposed to keep the love safe. It doesn't make sense. He doesn't even know about the cleaning rules. How could they possibly affect our relationship?"
OCD can attack anyone and
it’s easy to feel like,
“Why me?”
You wonder if
anyone understands the mental drain you go through.
You wonder if
someone switched brains with you, would they feel on edge all the time?
You wonder if anyone sees your pain.
You don't need to feel like you are losing your mind.
You are deserving of a happy life.
And your kids think so too!
That’s why I created a special program for moms who are struggling with:
Intrusive thoughts (scary things you don’t want to happen)
Compulsions (things you do to feel better)
Hopelessness in feeling like nothing else is working
Most new moms (up to 100%) experience unwanted intrusive thoughts about their baby. According to a study by Brok et al.:
4 weeks postpartum = all women experienced at least one intrusive harm thought
8 weeks postpartum = intrusive thoughts peak, with a gradual decline thereafter
12 weeks postpartum = 19% of women still had active harming intrusions
Exposure response prevention (ERP) is the “gold standard” treatment for OCD.
When changing the relationship with THE things that scare you, the quieter the thoughts become.
In a few weeks from now, you want to:
kiss your kids goodnight instead of feeling ‘weird’ that you hugged them too long.
read your kids a bedtime story instead of distancing yourself.
Cut vegetables for your kid’s lunch while they play in the floor near you.
‘Cause the thoughts have no meaning, no power AND
they no longer control you!
You’ve spent hours learning more than you wanted to know about your intrusive thoughts— when all you really want to do is:
stop worrying if these nightmares are true
stop doubting your real self
stop spinning in your OCD bubble
Have you ever wondered why the medicine wasn’t helping the way you expected? That’s because there’s no magic pill to help you fully zoom out of the vicious cycle.
Medicine cannot replace that corrective experience your brain can only get from exposure response prevention therapy. When working with a therapist who specializes in OCD, you won’t be judged for your thoughts, compulsions, and experiences.
The OCD Intensives for Moms is an effective therapy journey -
as easy as ordering diapers from your beloved Amazon Prime
(but much better!)
A package that delivers lifelong benefits for you versus UPS leaving a box on your doorstep and you’re thinking:
“What did I order this time?”
Amanda SeyfriedActress from “Mean Girls” & “Mamma Mia” in an interview about her OCD with Allure Magazine.
“It's not a mass; it's not a cyst. But it's there. Why do you need to prove it? If you can treat it, you treat it.”
Now you can confidently embrace your role as a loving mother -
You are the rock star in your kid’s life!
Obsessive-compulsive disorder is one of the most prevalent mental disorders in the United States >>per the National Library of Medicine.
And, Info from the National Institute for Health and Care Research says >>on average, people wait 12 years before seeking help but you don’t have to. <<
Sounds like a job for
OCD Intensives for Moms!
Package Price: $5,800
Does this sound like the chips to your guac? Great!
Here’s what you get:
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Power Sessions
1-on-1 done with you service
Full support by an expert
3 hour sessions, 3 times per wk
Having another adult who “gets” you AND can help you through your thoughts
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Lifetime Access to:
Clarity for New Beginnings Guide $27
Brain Reboot Journal $27
Post-Therapy Roadmap $9
A $63 value for no extra mula -
Access to Sole Sync: A Mindfulness Podcast for busy humans
Listen to the podcast fo’ free while you are a current client
Normally a $100/year price tag!
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Phone Access with an OCD Expert
Tailored advice specific to real-time challenges.
Continuous reinforcement of coping strategies.
Accountability: Helps you stay on track with your goals.
FEATURED IN
FEATURED IN
NOCD Content Creator
Healthline article contributor x2
Grief is the New Normal podcast
Podcaster’s Row podcast
The Traveling Therapist
And the cherry on top:
this is all designed to be a program that will give you tools, tips, & strategies that you can rinse and repeat
on your own to graduate from therapy.
This is a first come
first serve program
with only 1 spot available each month.
This is an individual,
unique intensive therapy experience online.
This is a rolling admission program. Snag your spot on the list today!
What to expect after filling out the waitlist form:
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1️⃣ Welcome Guide
This guide full of handy info (so you’ll feel like a pro before we even start.)
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2️⃣ Consult Call
Within 1-2 business days, we’ll schedule your free 30 minute video call to ensure the program meets your unique needs.
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3️⃣ Paperwork
If we’re a good fit, new client paperwork will be heading to your inbox from Simple Practice (my scheduling system.)
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4️⃣ Deposit
Once the paperwork is complete and you’ve made your $580 good faith deposit, we’ll get your appointments on the books.
Common Feedback from Graduated Clients:
You’re getting authentic transparency here!
“I can manage my OCD symptoms in a healthy way.”
“I can manage my OCD symptoms in a healthy way.”
"I'm able to get back into a sense of normalcy."
"I'm able to get back into a sense of normalcy."
It's time to give yourself permission to get help —
once and for all.
You COULD try to solve this is probably something like ...
not trying to think about your intrusive thoughts.
(Gosh, if we had only thought of that idea sooner!)
Or…
you could keep going with the self-help books and Facebook mom groups.
But the anonymous confessions are a compulsion that only feeds your OCD.
Or….
see a psychiatrist for medication and stop there.
But that is not going to get the thoughts out of your head.
You just want to enjoy life with your kid
Your kid is a kid NOW. Their childhood, bonding time with you, and making memories are happening today. The days are long and the years are short... but can you get their childhood back for $5,800?
No dollar amount can compare to what you’re willing to do to be the best mom you can be.
If you choose to wait on getting help for your OCD, how much longer are you going to hold out on authentically enjoying moments with your child?
There is only 1 individual spot available per month for this intensive therapy program!
In a Teen Vogue interview, "Stranger Things" actress Shannon Purser discussed her struggles with OCD and depression, sharing:
"Looking back, I wish I’d been able to reach out for help sooner."
Shannon PurserAnd not to mention: “It was overwhelmingly comforting to finally realize that I wasn’t alone and that nothing was wrong with me. It was a treatable disorder.”
Since specializing in OCD, my therapy services have helped dozens of women
just like you over the past year.
We can continue working together past the 3 weeks, if you need it. Those sessions are 60 minutes at $195. More than likely, after this first 3 weeks, you feel like, “That’s a wrap!” 🎬because you feel in control again.
I’m Erin Davis, Licensed Clinical Mental Health Counselor and OCD specialist, helping those in the spirals of intrusive thoughts to come out of that valley and enjoy the view with mindful resilience.
This ain’t for everyone.
This program is designed to give you results in 3 weeks instead of 6+ months.
These are longer sessions to give you more support and quicker results.
You can enjoy Christmas with your kids around the tree this year, eating food at Thanksgiving around the table with your little ones, and blow out candles on your kid’s birthday cake… together.
Nope. I'm not going to sit here and say this is for everyone. But if …
You have not found a therapist that specializes in OCD where you can freely talk about it, no matter how dark and ugly, to purge it out and get the right help you need.
Having another adult who "gets" you and can help you through your thoughts
Stop crying all the time, to feel like you are a good mom & not feel like your life is being confined to rules by your thoughts.
Someone who is NOT a fit would know because they...
are a male, sorry dad’s, this one is for the mommas. This program is also not for you if you are not willing to fully commit to the intensive nature of this program, like attending all sessions and actively participating. And to keep it simple, you are not a fit if you are not located in North Carolina or Virginia. Keep going to see what can help you successfully graduate from this program!
You will be most successful when you are ready and willing to commit to:
3 hour sessions.
Meeting 3 times per week.
Having sessions on weekdays.
Keep learning in the program for at least 3 weeks.
During 1 of these 9 appointments, you are willing to virtually take Erin along in your pocket at a location outside of the office to give you the best, immersive exposure therapy experience.
Completing homework in between therapy appointments.
Remembering why you started the program to keep you motivated during the exposure therapy.
Embracing your brave self.
Make timely payments.
Show up to your free, 30 minute consultation with questions to make sure this program is what you’re looking for.
If this program is not what you need, don’t worry, let’s chat to see if regular individual therapy is a better fit for ya.
I’m guessing you have questions…
so I have answers!
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Absolutely! If you're an adult female desiring an intensive, customized 1-1 virtual program, you are welcome to fill out the ERP Waitlist form.
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Newbies are highly welcome! In fact, if you’ve never had OCD treatment before, this is THE best place to start! Let’s knock this one out of the park!
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Yes! Only $360 is required to reserve your spot. You have the option to pay in full OR pay per week (upfront). Fees can be paid using cash, credit card, or CareCredit. CareCredit is a deferred interest credit card. I can also help you access your out-of-network insurance benefits by using Thrizer.
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The OCD themes I’m most experienced with are: harm, pedophilia, contamination, religious, and relationship OCD. If you’re curious about if you meet criteria for an OCD diagnosis, that is part of our consultation and assessment phase in our work together. There are so many OCD themes out there and feel free to ask during our consultation about my experience with your particular theme.
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No problem. I rarely answer numbers I don’t know so text is best! Email works too. 📲 Text: (828) 528-6837 | 📩 Email: info@valuedriventherapy.com
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This program is based on therapy strategies and evidenced based interventions for OCD.
If you want medication, or need support with medication management. Erin can put you in touch with a psychiatrist who can help!
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You are eligible to get a refund only on the fees paid above the $360 deposit. Of course, therapy is voluntary and you will be refunded only the therapy session fees (if services were not rendered).
Have you noticed the tricks of the OCD con artist?
As a mom, your little one’s childhood is precious,
& so is your quality of life.
You can’t get this time back.
How do you want your kid to remember you?
“Okay yesss the part of this where you talk about not being happy or grateful because something bad is going to happen. I feel that so much. My ‘something bad’ is negative thinking and panic attacks. When I start to feel happy my mind goes to ‘but you’re depressed’ ‘but you have major spiritual doubt’ ‘but you are gonna be anxious and have panic attacks.’ It’s a huge rut to get out of!”
— Quote from a YouTube fan, @rachaelmartin5229
The OCD Intensives for Moms isn't just another hum drum therapy hour -
it's a great option to finally get peace from the grip of OCD sooner rather than later.
Designed specifically for moms like you, this intensive program offers a focused, comprehensive approach to Exposure and Response Prevention (ERP), the gold standard in OCD treatment, in addition to mindfulness techniques.
By immersing yourself in this intensive program, you're committing to a transformative journey where you'll learn practical strategies to confront & overcome your intrusive thoughts and compulsions.
This isn't about temporary relief;
it's about long-lasting change.
This Intensive Outpatient Program:
Empowers you to reclaim control over your thoughts and actions, allowing you to fully engage in and enjoy your role as a mother without the weight of fear holding you back.
You wonder what it would be like to confidently handle challenges, model resilience for your children, and embrace every moment with clarity & peace of mind.
It's your turn to be happy. It’s your chance to get mental freedom. It’s your time to live your life to the fullest, now & in the future.
Not just for you, but for your kids too.
Ready to Break Free?
There is only 1 individual spot available per month for this intensive therapy program.
If you have questions, email me at info@valuedriventherapy.com or text me at (828) 528-6837.
Your transformation starts with taking the first step.
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"I wasted years following OCD's rules, thinking they were keeping my family safe. They weren't. They were just making the OCD stronger. Don't wait as long as I did. The treatment works, and it's worth every penny." — Sarah
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"I remembered why I fell in love with him. I wasn't appreciating him through all those relationship rituals OCD demanded. The program didn't just save my sanity — it saved our engagement." — Megan
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"I realized I was so focused on following safety rules to 'prevent' my death that I wasn't actually living my life. I got my present moment back and can finally make plans for the future." — Michelle
Your story of recovery starts today.
This program is designed for military wives diagnosed with OCD who are ready to commit to intensive treatment. Sessions are conducted via secure video platform. Available to residents of North Carolina and Virginia