The Wedding Anniversary Story
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In this episode of 'Bossing Up, Overcoming OCD,' Erin Davis discusses why success at work doesn't always translate to success in romantic relationships. She explains the puzzling disconnects high-achieving women often experience when they excel professionally but struggle with relationship insecurities. Erin uses the example of a high-powered CFO, Melissa, to illustrate how professional skills can be transferred to personal life. The episode covers how to identify confidence gaps and provides practical strategies to build relationship confidence. Erin also introduces her group coaching program, 'Obsessed: Love More,' designed to help professional women bridge this gap and achieve balance in their personal and professional lives.
00:00 Introduction and Welcome
00:45 Understanding the Confidence Gap
02:53 Professional vs. Personal Confidence
04:28 Strategies for Bridging the Gap
06:48 Melissa's Transformation
08:27 Actionable Tips and Tools
11:53 Final Thoughts and Invitation
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Have you ever had something go terribly wrong and then years later it becomes one of your favorite stories to tell that moment when what felt like a disaster transformed into a cherished memory. Today I'm sharing two of my own wedding day disasters that looking back, have become some of our favorite memories.
These moments that had me freaking out are now stories that we love to tell. And more importantly, you'll hear how perspective shifts can transform relationship disasters into meaningful memories while imperfection creates stronger bonds than perfection ever could. And how to apply this mindset to your own relationship challenges.
If you enjoy today's episode, make sure to subscribe so you never miss a future tip. And if you wanna take this work deeper, I've got a no cost email course called The Overthinkers Guide to Love. You can find it on my [00:01:00] website@livebeyonddoubt.com, and I'll put a link in the show notes. So picture this.
It's my wedding day 16 years ago. Everything has been meticulously planned. I am a hyper organized over planner. Try to think of everything down to the nitty gritty detail. The church is beautifully decorated. We've got beautiful flowers. Pink, white, yellow, and I loved daisies. Daisies were the theme, the Gerber daisies, by the way, just beautiful.
We had these candles creating a warm and romantic inviting atmosphere. Our friends and family are all dressed up. Everyone's seated music plays, and everything on this day is just going so perfect. The ceremony starts. I'm standing at the back of the church with my dad, and my heart is pounding with excitement and nervousness.
My bridesmaids and the groomsmen, they're all ready at the altar, and my soon to be husband is standing there looking so [00:02:00] handsome. My father gives me away. We stand up there together, my husband and I we're getting ready to do our vows and then boom, I'm like, what? What just happened? And look over. And one of our groomsmen is on the floor.
I'm thinking, oh my gosh, is he okay? We quickly realized not only did he pass out because you know that would just be too simple. Instead he fell like sideways and then trying to catch himself. He knocked over a. Dozen candles that were set up across the altar. So not only do we hear a boom, but there's like this huge gasp from everybody in the church.
Candles are going everywhere. We're making sure there's no fire happening. There's hot wax on the church carpet, and the pastor is standing there with this Bible open. We're like, oh my gosh. What do we do? It was all such a blur. The Groomsmen's wife helps him out. No fire happened. Thankfully, [00:03:00] we're finishing the ceremony, but in the back of my mind, I'm like, I feel so bad there's all this wax on the carpet.
Even though it was so well planned, you can't plan for someone passing out. Then we're down a groomsman, right? And the author is. Uneven. Now, I'm not about to be a bridezilla and go crazy and do all the things at the end when the groomsmen and the bridesmaids are walking out and normally they pair up, and so at the very end I thought, oh my gosh, I hope one of my ladies isn't left up there by herself.
Luckily, the last groomsmen to walk down the aisle totally improvised and just held out both elbows. It was like, come on ladies. It was hilarious. And when he did that, everyone in the church started clapping. It was really something for your wedding day. Sometimes you get so caught up in how things should be that you can easily forget why you're there.
And here's the thing, 16 years later, we're still laughing about the fainting groomsmen and then even the last groomsmen holding [00:04:00] out both elbows being like, come on ladies. Oh my gosh, it was epic and honestly, a way better laugh than I could have ever planned. And thankfully the church was replacing the carpet the very next week anyway, and guess what?
They have now made a forever permanent rule. No candles for a wedding. So sorry. Church, you have us to thank for that. And yet the wedding surprises weren't over yet. We did the reception where we celebrated, we danced, we cut the cake. My husband and I love red velvet cake. It was fabulous. And so eventually we wrapped up the party and my husband and I were scheduled to catch an early flight to Florida.
To board a carnival cruise for our honeymoon. Y'all, with any food allergies or celiac, carnival cruise is the way to go. So anyway, my husband and I wake up early and we're exhausted, right? The wedding day can feel so long and you're tired, you barely eat. You're trying to enjoy this. Brand new life together, but you also gotta be [00:05:00] thankful to the guest.
And it's just so many things happening, right? But we gotta wake up early for this flight, right? We grab a quick McDonald's breakfast on the way to the airport, and we're feeling that newly wave bliss. So the plan was we're driving my car, which was. This black Scion, xb loved my car. We're driving it to my parents' house, and then my parents are gonna take us to the airport.
We're newlyweds. We gotta cut cost. Right? We didn't wanna pay the airport parking fees, y'all come on. We were in our early twenties at the time. Dark. We load up our luggage from my scion over to my dad's van, and we're on our way to the airport. All of a sudden, my husband's like, my ring, what? My wedding ring is gone, and I'm thinking, oh my gosh, are you for real right now?
We've barely been married 24 hours and he's already lost his wedding ring. I was like. Wow. To be both of us. We're both organized and y'all, I have this thing being around. I work on it all the time. I'm still working through it. It's a [00:06:00] area of growth, but if I lose something, it gets stuck in my mind constantly.
I cannot stop thinking about this loss thing. I will. Even some used to spend a whole weekend turning the house upside down, trying to find this one thing. In the case of the wedding ring, we pulled the car over and we hadn't been going very long down the road because here's my thing, we're newlyweds. We gotta have our wedding rings.
Like how does this even look like a wedding couple without a wedding ring? We're emptying our. Pockets. Were checking the luggage between the seats under the floor mats. As much as I loved my Scion xb, I was willing to tear that dash apart. I was gonna find this wedding ring 'cause I'm like, maybe when he adjusted the air, you know, it fell off his hand and went into the vent.
Then it's down in the air system or in the engine. Your mind can do crazy things. We did all the searching, but the ring was nowhere to be found. We had a plane to catch. Clock was ticking. That panic was starting to come up. And I thought, it's [00:07:00] just not worth missing our flight. We're just gonna have to go without it.
Maybe we will buy him something in Cozumel. And I had to do my best to not let that ruin our honeymoon. By the time we landed in Florida, I feel like I'd run through a hundred million scenarios of where the ring could possibly be. And I'll, again, was doing my best be like, just stay in the moment. Don't worry about it.
It'll be fine. You'll get him another one. It's okay that we don't have a wedding ring for these honeymoon pictures. No big deal. And then I get a phone call. It was my mom. She said, you'll never believe what I found. Guess where she found it? In the trash? Yes. Moms are so great. Right? My mom dug through the trash and found his wedding ring in the McDonald's bag.
Apparently when my husband was reaching for his. Breakfast biscuit, the ring must have slipped off into the bag, so we threw the McDonald's bag in the trash. I felt relief. At the same time. We were still a whole flight in several states [00:08:00] away from having the ring, so I had to choose to be happy and laugh it off despite it not being this.
Picture perfect honeymoon. These two wedding day mishaps taught me something powerful about relationships. The events themselves do not define our experience, but it's our reaction to the event and the meaning we assign to these events in both situations. I could have easily looked at these events as terrible disasters ruining our perfect winning day.
But with a shift in perspective, they became stories that were funny, memorable, meaningful, and we still tell them over a decade later, this is true for all relationships. There are unexpected challenges. Those moments when things don't go according to plan. These aren't interruptions to your love story.
They are your love story. So think about when you look back on your relationship years from now, what will you remember [00:09:00] most vividly? Will it be the days when everything went perfectly, or will it be the time you went on a road trip and got lost, yet found an amazing restaurant, or when you both got food poisoning and took turns caring for each other?
My husband and I have been there too in our college days. It's often these unplanned moments that we see each other most clearly, not as idealized versions, but as real humans responding to real life together. I encourage you to hold on to these reminders of the good times and the positives. Stay in the moment.
Enjoy your relationship. And if you're ready to transform how you approach challenges in your relationship, I invite you to join my webinar called Three Shifts in Breaking Free From Relationship Anxiety. I'll put a link in the show notes for you to join. Now you know how perspective shifts can transform relationship challenges into meaningful memories.
But what if you're dealing with deeper relationship doubts when it comes [00:10:00] to sex? I've got a special guest coming next week to talk about sexology and how to reconnect with your partner to have deeper intimacy. And last but not least, shout out to my husband. Happy anniversary, babe. Love you to the moon and back.
Thanks y'all for being here and stay blessed by the best.
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